(New Post) “If You’re An Actor, Act!” — Being In The Moment

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A week ago I was watching Oprah and she was interviewing poet Mark Nepo about life and passions and he said something simple that struck a chord with me, he said “if you’re a singer, sing! If you’re a writer, write” and he continued to go on about the simplicity of that concept but the importance of just doing whatever it is you have a passion for. Don’t over think it, don’t worry about being famous or outside pressures but rather just be in the moment and do it.

Being in the moment and being present is a concept that I’m working very hard on right now because I have a tendency to worry and over think everything and it takes me out of just the simple enjoyment of doing whatever I do. The other day I put my new resolution to the test at an audition, it was for a Theatre company and I’ll be honest theatre auditions usually make me pretty nervous.

My comfort zone is film/tv and singing so I often enjoy the fact that I have to sing in Theatre auditions but it’s not exactly in the style that I’m most comfortable with and I usually have to go through my repertoire and find the most “musical theatre” style song that I can pull off within a weeks notice. Theatre auditions also usually require a monologue and this is the part that makes me really nervous! I love to act and I love dialogue and doing a scene but I always struggle with finding a good contemporary or classical style monologue that shows my range as an actress and makes me memorable. Being memorable is always my biggest concern so I often opt for doing something completely different and unexpected at an audition just to make sure that the name “Andrea Lewis” won’t be forgotten. Most Theatre auditions that I go to I find the quirkiest monologue that makes me laugh because I know it’ll make my audience laugh and laughter is a good way to make someone remember you! But like I said before, I usually worry and overthink about everything but this time around I decided to just “be”.

I went to my audition, wore my favorite red pants because red is a fiery color and I’m a fire sign! I picked a monologue that had subtle hints of comedy and a unique story and I sang one of my favorite songs from the show “Once on This Island”, which is an amazing show but I don’t often hear people sing songs from it so I knew it would be something that the casting director hadn’t heard yet for the day. And I thought of Mark Nepo and the casting director Debra Aquilla who many years ago, gave me the advice to “just play” and that’s exactly what I did. I loved performing my monologue and was super proud of myself for memorizing a 2 minute monologue in 2 days and I felt fantastic singing one of my favorite songs and I was completely, honestly and openly in the moment. I didn’t worry about what the casting directors were thinking and if I booked it or would have a call back or if I sounded good or looked good, or convinced them, instead I just focused on convincing myself and it was the best I’d felt in an audition in a long time. Singing, acting, and entertaining is what I do and whenever I get the chance to do what I do that’s all I should be thinking about. Being in the moment, enjoying it and grateful for it.

This post is to remind all of you guys  to just do what you do, if you’re an actor, act, if you’re a writer, write, if you’re a singer, sing, if you are a designer, then go design! Whatever it is, just do it, don’t worry about anything else except being in the moment and doing exactly what you are meant to do.

Happy Monday! Peace Out!

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(New Video Post) How To Gain Confidence #SelfLoveSaturday

Happy Self Love Saturday!

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Hey guys? How are you doing? Today I want to focus on a question that I get every week and that’s “How can I gain confidence?” I’m always a bit stumped on how to answer this question because I don’t think there is a simple and quick answer that I can give to someone on how to gain confidence. Confidence for me has been a long journey in self discovery, patience and persistence. Confidence is very similar to Happiness, it’s an inside job and only you have control over it.

I treat my confidence like a muscle that needs to be worked and developed on a regular basis and I think it’s very important to see confidence in that way. I’ve never been able to rely on outside factors to help me build my confidence because the world is a cold and fickle place LOL and I mean that in  the nicest way, but I’ve grown up in the entertainment industry and for every person that loves you, there’s someone around the corner who thinks you suck! So I’ve had to learn to find confidence with in myself and I’ve worked very hard to keep it! Along the way though I have learned a few tricks to help develop and keep confidence, a few of the tips  I have mentioned before on the blog, but check out my video below on How To Gain Confidence and let me know what you have done to gain confidence.

(New Video Post) Having A Positive Perspective #SelfLoveSaturday

Happy Self Love Saturday!

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Today I want to talk about Having A Positive Perspective in life. Having a positive perspective has been a big part of my Self Love Journey and has helped me a lot to grow and mature. I’ve had to learn to see the silver lining in life, and to realize that there is no bad situation, it’s all in my hands how I let something effect me and I have the power to remain positive, present and unfazed. When you are positive in everything you do it helps you to stay focused, solve problems quickly and be happier and we all want to be happy! So I’m putting it out to you guys, how positive is your perspective? Check out my video below.

Happy Self Love Saturday 

(New Video Post) Healthy Hair Journey [Curly Tutorial and Tips]

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Hey Guys!

Guess what? Two days till my birthday! Woop! Woop! But back to the subject at hand, on a nearly daily basis I get into conversations about my hair, whether meeting people with similar hair to mine and they want to discuss products or people asking how I got my hair to healthy state. I love having hair convos because hair is one of those topics that I find endlessly fascinating because similar to genetics we all have our own unique texture, curl pattern and much more when it comes to our hair. I decided today to open up the discussion with you guys and share some of the things that I have done along my hair journey to get my hair healthy and a little peek into my daily routine for how I do my hair. Check out the video below and let me know some of your own tips for getting healthy hair! Enjoy!

(New Post) #MondayInspiration – “Free Fall” By Mark Nepo

The lesson that I’ve been taught and slapped in the face with multiple times this year is “to be present and just live” . Literally this lesson has come to me in every form that it can this year and I still manage to forget and get re-reminded all over again lol.

Yesterday I was watching “Super Soul Sunday” on OWN and the featured guest was poet and author Mark Nepo who has an extraordinary story and spirit that I was very inspired by. Oprah asked him to read one of his poems, “Free Fall” and it pretty much summed up the continuous lesson that I needed to learn this year, to be present and just live. I wanted to share the poem with you guys and give you a little bit of inspiration to start the week and to remind you as well to be present and just live! Enjoy the poem and have a great week!

Freefall

If you have one hour of air
and many hours to go,
you must breathe slowly.

If you have one arm’s length
and many things to care for,
you must give freely.

If you have one chance to know God
and many doubts, you must
set your heart on fire.

We are blessed.

Every day is a chance.
We have two arms
Fear wastes air.

 

(New Video Post) Dealing with Haters #SelfLoveSaturday

Happy Self Love Saturday!

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Once a week I get a message asking my advice on how to deal with family or close friends who are hating and not supportive of someones goals and ambitions. These messages break my heart because there’s nothing worse than confiding in someone about your dreams and they shoot it down! Or being around people who don’t want to see you grow.

Today’s video I do my best to give you a few tips from what I have done in the past when dealing with the haters. First things first, you have to cut any unsupportive friends or at least adjust your relationship with them so that their negativity doesn’t influence you on a regular basis. When it comes to your family, it’s not as easy to distance yourself from them so I say, don’t tell them about your goals just show em and prove em wrong!

We can’t expect everyone to be on board with our plans and they don’t have to be but you have to prepare yourself for being on a solo mission and being your only source of motivation when the people around you aren’t supportive. Understand their hate has nothing to do with you, but rather their own fears and failures that they are reflecting on to you. Ignore their doubts, and keep your eyes focused on the prize! Check out my video below and let me know, how have you dealt with the haters in your life?

(New Video Post) What is #100HappyDays ? – Happiness Challenge

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If you follow me on Instagram then you would have noticed that for the last 20 days I have been posting photos with the hashtag #100happydays. A lot of folks have asked me what it is and how they can be apart of it so I figured I’d do a quick video to let you guys know and encourage you to start!

#100HappyDays is a very simple Happiness Challenge that asks you to be happy for 100 days in a row. Most people do not go out of their way to be happy on a daily basis and it’s actually harder than people think! I feel the best way to be happy is to have a ton of gratitude, so far I’m on day 21 of my Happiness Challenge and it’s been a big lesson in gratitude. Whenever I’ve had my moment of not feeling happy or just blah, I’ve taken a step back and reminded myself to feel grateful for something whether big or small that happened in my day and I’m back to happy!  Having gratitude reminds you just how precious and awesome life is, the good and the bad, it doesn’t matter because it’s all apart of the journey, and its a lesson, and an experience that enhances your life!

Check out my video below of some of the small things that have made me happy in the last little while and join me on the challenge, 100HappDays.com

(New Video Post) Don’t Be Afraid To Say “No” #SelfLoveSaturday

Happy Self Love Saturday!

Today’s video is a reminder to not be afraid to say “No” to the people, places and things that no longer grow you, help you, serve you or make your gut say “something .

I used to think saying “No” was starting a confrontation, and I hate confrontations! But after starting my self love journey and gaining more confidence in myself I started to realize it was okay to say “NO” to things that made me uncomfortable, and it didn’t make me the bad guy or confrontational, it just made me confident in who I am, and what I want and what makes me happy. Saying “NO” is okay! Check out my video below of why you shouldn’t be afraid to say “NO”.

Happy Self Love Saturday!

(New Post) 20 Signs You’re Succeeding in Life, Even If You don’t think You Are

“This is for the 20-somethings! Time really moves fast you were just 16…” – Beyonce “Schoolin Life”

Hey guys,

I wanted to start you off with a little Monday Motivation and give you a pat on the back for surviving and thriving! I find for us Millennials there is an endless amount of lists, tips, memes, gifs and tests to show what success looks like, what you should be aiming for and also why you should feel bad if you’re not even close!

But I’ve released more and more that Success is defined differently for every person and no amount of Facebook tests is going to get me to “live my dream life”  and so for that I should have more patience with myself and recognize that even though at times is seems slow, I am making progress. I saw this list during one my moments of distraction from my work (which never happens I swear! LOL) And it hit the nail on the head to let all of us Millennials know that we are succeeding, even if we don’t feel like it. Check out the 20 reasons below and use this as motivation to know that your baby steps are leading you to where you want to be, so keep grinding! 🙂

1. Your relationships are less dramatic than they used to be.

Drama is not maturity. As we age, we should develop maturity. So maybe your relationships were drama-filled in your past, but if you have moved beyond that, then you are successful.

2. You are not afraid to ask for help and support any more.

Asking for help does not equal weakness. In fact, it is a strength. No person has ever succeeded in isolation. It takes teamwork to accomplish goals. Asking or help is a sign that you have grown as a person.

3. You have raised your standards.

You don’t tolerate bad behavior any more – from other people, or even yourself. You hold people accountable for their actions. You don’t spend time with the “energy vampires” in your life anymore.

4. You let go of things that don’t make you feel good.

No, this is not narcissistic even though it might seem like it. Self-love is success. Love yourself enough to say ‘no’ to anything that doesn’t make you happy, doesn’t serve your purpose, or drags you down.

5. You have moments where you appreciate who you see in the mirror.

Ideally, you should appreciate who you see in the mirror at every moment. But even if that doesn’t happen, if you do it more than you used to, then that is success. Love yourself. You are awesome.

6. You have learned that setbacks and failure are part of self-growth.

Not everyone can have success 100% of the time. That’s just not realistic. Life is about victories and losses. So look at your setbacks as stepping stones to something better. In reality, there really is no such thing as as setback. It’s all just part of a wondrous journey.

7. You have a support system that includes people who would do anything for you.

If you have figured out the people who “have your back” and recognized the ones who only pretend that they do, then you have succeeded. This is a painful realization, but once you learn to see the signs of betrayal, you can stay away from those people.

8. You don’t complain much.

Because you know there really is nothing to complain about. Unless you really have gone through some horrific life experience and had unimaginable losses, most of what we all experience on a day-to-day basis is just mundane. And successful people know that. And they live in a space of gratitude.

9. You can celebrate others’ successes.

Just because other people succeed, that doesn’t make you a failure. Applaud the people who rise to the top. The more positive energy you give to other people’s victories, the more you will create your own.

10. You have passions that you pursue.

You are not stagnant. You know you have something wonderful to contribute to the world. You have unique talents and gifts. Not only do you know that, you pursue it.

11. You have things to look forward to.

If you don’t have exciting things going on in your life that you are eagerly anticipating, then you are slowly dying inside. Successful people create goals that they are passionate about pursuing. They let this excitement drive their life.

12. You have goals that have come true.

Even though “failures” are a part of life, you have stuck to your goals and dreams long enough to make them come to fruition. You have  some tastes of victory. It fuels you.

13. You have empathy for others.

A person without empathy is dead inside. Empathy equals spreading love and positive energy into the world. Successful people know this. They love others as if they are family.

14. You love deeply and open yourself up to be loved by others.

Love is risky, and sometimes scary for people. It’s the one thing we all strive for, but it’s also intimately tied to the one thing we fear the most – rejection. If you open your heart enough to love and be loved, then you are successful.

15. You refuse to be be a victim.

You know that life doesn’t always happen to you. Many times, you are a co-creator of your life experiences. Successful people know this and refuse to be kept down by life experiences. The rise up and conquer anyway.

16. You don’t care what other people think.

You know you can’t please everyone. You know that the standards with which society judges people is many times unrealistic. So you just keep true to yourself and love the person you are.

17. You always look on the bright side.

Life can be full of disappointments – if you choose to see them that way. Otherwise, they are learning opportunities. No negative experience is ever wasted as long as you learn from it.

18. You accept what you can’t change.

Let’s face it – there many things you can’t change in life. All you can change is how you view what happens. If you can change your negative perspective on situations to a positive one, then you are successful.

19. You change what you can.

And let’s face it again – there are many things you can change in life. Successful people don’t sit around accepting the negatives that are changeable. They get out there and do something about it!!

20. You are happy.

To me, this is the ultimate definition of success. It doesn’t matter what the balance is in your bank account, how big your house is,  or how many fancy vacations you take. If you are happy, then you are succeeding in life.

Even if you don’t see yourself in many of these 20 things, don’t fret. It’s okay. Be happy that you see yourself in just a few. In time, the rest will come. You just need to keep moving onward and upward.

 

 

 

(New Video Post) 8 Ways to Love Yourself #SelfLoveSaturday

Happy Self Love Saturday!

A week ago I posted a list on my instagram page that I stumbled on and I truly felt it listed the key steps to loving yourself. The list was about “8 Ways to De-Clutter Your mind” but it was also interchangeable with Self Love. I was so inspired by this list that I decided to make a video about it and go a little more in depth on the steps. Check out the list and video below!

 1. Accept What Is

2. Be Kind To Yourself 

3. Release Your Guilt and Fears 

4. Let Go of Control 

5. Visualize What’s Important To You

6. Focus on Your Life Energy Force 

7. Allow Yourself to be Vulnerable 

8. Find What Doesn’t Serve or Interest You and Let It Go