(New Video Post) “Just Do You!” #SelfLoveSaturday

I’ve been having a great year! For the first time in my life I can confidently say I am truly just doing me! I told myself at the beginning of the year that I was going to do everything that I wanted to do. I was going to do all of the things that I was passionate about and the things that bring me joy. In making that choice I have became a much happier and confident person and if I hadn’t started my self love journey I don’t know if I would have ever gained this amount of confidence in myself as an artist. I really encourage everyone to just do you! Do the things that you want to do and do what makes you happy! It’s your life, live it to the fullest! Happy Self Love Saturday!

(New Video Post) Skin & Hair Care with Coconut Oil – #SelfLoveSaturday

I’ve had a few people asking me to make a video showing my skin care and hair care routine and to be honest I don’t do anything special but I do use COCONUT OIL!! I truly feel that using this product has made a huge difference in the overall health of my hair, skin and nails. The video below is all about my love for coconut oil and why I think you should use it if you don’t already!

Also it’s #SelfLoveSaturday and today’s tip is on confidence! Having confidence in yourself and everything you do is so important to your overall success in life. It took my a very long time to get to the place that I’m in today with my confidence and I’m still growing. My tip for anyone struggling with confidence is to start to appreciate everything about yourself, feel grateful and then analyze the areas in your life that you struggle with confidence and why? How can you improve? What can you do to become more confident in the things that you aren’t confident in? I took a big step back from my life and one by one I worked on the areas that I felt like I needed help in and I still am. Doing this exercise on myself has made me more confident and more aware of who I am, so I definitely think it will help anyone who is struggling right now. But please be positive with yourself, take a look at your journey and be confident in how you’ve grown, who you are and where you’re going! Happy Self Love Saturday


(New post) 10 High Performance Habits that Lead to Success #SelfLoveSaturday

I think I read one of these lists every week. There’s always one floating around face book along with “20 overrated things about being in your 20’s” which I also read and I’m going to stop because it does nothing for my life!

But back to my story, I found this list late last week and I liked it, it had some things that I already knew but it was simple, too the point and it didn’t try to make you feel bad for not doing everything on the list. I’ve been on a serious “success” and “living to my potential” obsession for almost 2 yrs now and whether you think that’s crazy or not doesn’t matter to me because it’s helped me a lot! As many of these lists that I stumble on and search for and even if they all say the same thing over and over again I read it because it reminds me of what I’m after and what will help me get there.

Of all the things on this list below that I need to work on the most it’s probably to “take advantage of my morning”. I love to sleep, and unless I need to be on a set at 6am or do a live morning show interview at 5:30 in the morning then I will be a sleep to a decent hour, nothing crazy like 12pm or anything but just not anything before 9am! But I would love to figure out the ways of changing my sleep pattern and waking up earlier to get more done in my day, I guess that’ll be my next task for my “self-improvement mission”. Check out this list below and tell me what you think, which of these habits have you already picked up and which ones are you working on? Happy Self Love Saturday! 

1. Win the Morning

While the world sleeps, the high performer works. Could you imagine if you woke up on purpose, with purpose every day? How can you expect to achieve excellence when the first decision you make on a daily basis is to procrastinate the day by hitting the snooze button?

Win the morning by waking up earlier than you normally do to get a workout in, feed your mind with good books, and fuel your body with a good breakfast—all before the rest of the world is deciding whether to get up or not. Win the morning.


2. Do Hard Things

We are surrounded by people who want the fastest and easiest path to success, but not you—not anymore. Rather than run from the challenge that is keeping you from doing what you want, stare it in the face; learn about it; and embrace it.

“The road to greatness is easy”, said “no one ever”.

Doing hard things will teach you lessons you wouldn’t learn otherwise, and will make you stronger than you thought possible.

You can do hard things.


3. Embrace feedback

The average person hates to be told what they are doing wrong or what they can do better. Learning to accept feedback is not easy, but once you decide to seek it out and act on ways you can improve, you will dramatically improve your progress.

Embracing feedback doesn’t mean to do what everyone tells you; identify key mentors or coaches who are great at what they do and more importantly, who care about your future, then allow them to take you places you wouldn’t have gone otherwise.


4. Learn from Failure

No one likes to fail, lose, or mess up; but high performers use adversity to learn lessons, and refuse to allow them to disable them emotionally. When you fail, identify what you did well, what you can do better, and what you are going to do about it right now.


5. Choose your attitude

One of the most important decisions you make every day is the attitude you are going to have when you walk out your door. Don’t take your attitude for granted or it will get the best of you.


6. Do one more

As an athlete, you can do 10 reps in the weight room, or you can do 11.  As a sales rep you can choose to make 15 calls or choose to do 16. One of the best ways to build mental strength is to do something you might not want to do, but you know will help you.

Do one more—because the average person won’t.


7. Have a purpose

The clearer you can see your target, the more likely you are to hit it. High performers don’t do things “just because”, as mentioned earlier, they do things on purpose, with purpose. When you know why you do what you do, you’ll have more power to do it.


8. Recommit every single day

One reason the average person doesn’t achieve their goals is because life catches up to them and they allow the things that they have to do blind them from the things they want to do. Every day, recommit to the things that matter most.

You empower yourself when your priorities are in line.


9. Be patient

Success is made in a slow-cooker, not a microwave. High performers understand that overnight success comes after years of hard work. Be patient with yourself, keep your eyes on the prize and focus on the process, the results will take care of themselves.


10. Fear no one

Refuse to allow people to intimidate you. You don’t need anyone’s permission to do something great. Putting others on a pedestal because of their talent, experience, and or accolades makes you susceptible to beating up on yourself because you feel that you’re not as good as they are. Anyone can be beat, including you; so respect your competition but refuse to fear them—who knows, they may fear you.





(New Video Post) Fears, Reboots and Updates – #SelfloveSaturday

This is a quick post to give you guys an up date on how my 10 day cleanse went, for the most part it went really well, I lost a couple pounds, but my intent was not to lose weight but rather just clear my system and give myself a reboot for September/October because I’ve got a lot coming up in the next couple months with “Black Actress” and my music! Woop! Woop! Let’s also talk about fear? I’ve been getting in my head a bit and having a bit of fear for running a marathon but luckily I’m aware that the fear is trying to cripple me and I’m working on getting over it and trust and believe me I will be running a marathon in the next 2 months! So like I said, this is a quick update video, hope you’re all having a great #selflovesaturday! xo

(New Video Post) Updates and Why I do #selflove saturday!

I’m sorry for the lack of activity but it’s all for good reason! Mama is working! “Black Actress” is in full production and I’ve been in LA and New York cooking up some good stuff for everyone to see this September! I’m so excited for this project and honestly a little overwhelmed with amazement that I’m actually making this happen! Check out my instagram page for a look into my cali trip and more behind the scenes is coming this week! Woop! Woop!

Also in this video is my “why” behind why I’m so big on #selflove! Starting a self love journey, seriously helped me get out of depression and started me on the path to living the life that I wanted! I made a conscious choice to love my self and live to my potential and I think it’s important to share that with people, so that’s why I love self love!



(New video post) Self-Motivation &Mentality #selflovesaturday

Happy  Self love Saturday!

I wanted to chat with you guys quickly about a subject I’ve had to discuss a few times this week and that’s being self- motivated and having the right mentality.

My beliefs are the right mentality and the ability to self motivate go hand in hand! You’ve got to have both and you’ve got to work them like a muscle! Strengthen your mentality and learn to motivate yourself to want to live better, do better and be better!

Tweet me some of your self love tips! @missandrealewis 

(New video post) Embracing your natural beauty #selflovesaturday

#43 Embracing your natural beauty

One of my goals for myself this year is to be as “naturally beautiful as I can be”. Natural beauty for me is embracing what you have and making the absolute best of it, whether it be your hair, skin or body you’ve got to appreciate it and love yourself enough to want these parts of you to be the best they can be. When I say natural though that doesn’t mean I’m anti-weave or makeup, that stuff is fine as long as it’s within reason and for the right reasons. If you’re wearing weave because you hate your hair and you want to appear to be someone else and if you wear makeup because you think you HAVE TO then those reasons aren’t good and you might need to begin a self-love  journey.

Self love for me involves working on whats on the inside to make sure the outside is a true reflection of love and beauty and it all starts with health. Health of your mind body and soul. When you get your mind in the state of wanting to embrace self love then I find that you naturally want to improve every part of your life including your outer beauty. There is no point in hating what you have or being envious of others because of what they’ve got when you aren’t embracing your own true beauty and making the best of it! I think Natural beauty all starts with making the absolute best of what you have, embracing your flaws, recognizing your assets and running with it! So I encourage all of you to embrace your natural beauty and make the best of what you got! xo Happy #selflovesaturday

(New blog post) 7 Step prescription to Self Love #selflovesaturday

As you guys may know I’ve been on a very serious “self love journey”, it’s been going on for the last year and a half and the change in my mentality has changed my life in an amazing way.

Having “self love” is not having conceit or being self absorbed but instead it’s is being aware and appreciative of who you are and what you want and need in life to life a better positive life filled with LOVE. I encourage everyone to start a journey in Self Love whether it’s taking small steps or big steps, you won’t regret it, I found a perfect 7 Step Prescription to Self Love written by Deborah Khoshaba, Psy.D for anyone who doesn’t know where to start, take a look at these steps to get you started.

  1. Become mindful. People who have more self-love tend to know what they think, feel and want. They are mindful of who they are and act on this knowledge, rather than on what others want for them.
  2. Act on what you need rather than what you want. You love yourself when you can turn away from something that feels good and exciting to what you need to stay strong, centered, and moving forward in your life, instead. By staying focused on what you need, you turn away from automatic behavior patterns that get you into trouble, keep you stuck in the past, and lessen self-love.
  3. Practice good self-care. You will love yourself more, when you take better care of your basic needs. People high in self-love nourish themselves daily through healthy activities, like sound nutrition, exercise, proper sleep, intimacy and healthy social interactions.
  4. Set boundaries. You’ll love yourself more when you set limits or say no to work, love, or activities that deplete or harm you physically, emotionally and spiritually, or express poorly who you are.
  5. Protect yourself. Bring the right people into your life. I love the termfrenemies that I learned from my younger clients. It describes so well the type of “friends” who take pleasure in your pain and loss rather than in your happiness and success. My suggestion to you here: Get rid of them! There isn’t enough time in your life to waste on people who want to take away the shine on your face that says, “I genuinely love myself and life”. You will love and respect yourself more.
  6. Forgive yourself. We humans can be so hard on ourselves. The downside of taking responsiblity for our actions is punishing ourselves too much for mistakes in learning and growing. You have to accept your humanness (the fact that you are not perfect), before you can truly love yourself. Practice being less hard on yourself when you make a mistake. Remember, there are no failures, if you have learned and grown from your mistakes; there are only lessons learned.
  7. Live intentionally. You will accept and love yourself more, whatever is happening in your life, when you live with purpose and design. Your purpose doesn’t have to be crystal clear to you. If your intention is to live a meaningful and healthy life, you will make decisions that support this intention, and feel good about yourself when you succeed in this purpose. You will love yourself more if you see yourself accomplishing what you set out to do. You need to establish your living intentions, to do this.

(new post) #SelfLoveSaturday – Choose to be happy


I discovered sometime last year that if I want to be happy I had to purposely do things to be happy, I had to change my life!

Living a happy life comes in all shapes and sizes and it all starts with you and I truly feel that having self love and living a happy life go hand in hand. You have to choose to love your self and you have to choose to be happy! Here are 15 tips small tips to being happy that I found on Emmaorwhatever.tumblr  that I thought were perfect ways to “choose to be happy” and a few of the steps on this list were told to me when I begin my journey to being happy. So if you’re feeling down and want to see a change or feeling great and want to continue do so check out this list and let me know if you try any of the steps!

1. push yourself to get up before the rest of the world – start with 7am, then 6am, then 5:30am. go to the nearest hill with a big coat and a scarf and watch the sun rise.

2. push yourself to fall asleep earlier – start with 11pm, then 10pm, then 9pm. wake up in the morning feeling re-energized and comfortable.

3. erase processed food from your diet. start with no lollies, chips, biscuits, then erase pasta, rice, cereal, then bread. use the rule that if a child couldn’t identify what was in it, you don’t eat it.

4. get into the habit of cooking yourself a beautiful breakfast. fry tomatoes and mushrooms in real butter and garlic, fry an egg, slice up a fresh avocado and squirt way too much lemon on it. sit and eat it and do nothing else.

5. stretch. start by reaching for the sky as hard as you can, then trying to touch your toes. roll your head. stretch your fingers. stretch everything.

6. buy a 1L water bottle. start with pushing yourself to drink the whole thing in a day, then try drinking it twice.

7. buy a beautiful diary and a beautiful black pen. write down everything you do, including dinner dates, appointments, assignments, coffees, what you need to do that day. no detail is too small.

8. strip your bed of your sheets and empty your underwear draw into the washing machine. put a massive scoop of scented fabric softener in there and wash. make your bed in full.

9. organise your room. fold all your clothes (and bag what you don’t want), clean your mirror, your laptop, vacuum the floor. light a beautiful candle.

10. have a luxurious shower with your favourite music playing. wash your hair, scrub your body, brush your teeth. lather your whole body in moisturiser, get familiar with the part between your toes, your inner thighs, the back of your neck.

11. push yourself to go for a walk. take your headphones, go to the beach and walk. smile at strangers walking the other way and be surprised how many smile back. bring your dog and observe the dog’s behaviour. realise you can learn from your dog.

12. message old friends with personal jokes. reminisce. suggest a catch up soon, even if you don’t follow through. push yourself to follow through.

13. think long and hard about what interests you. crime? sex? boarding school? long-forgotten romance etiquette? find a book about it and read it. there is a book about literally everything.

14. become the person you would ideally fall in love with. let cars merge into your lane when driving. pay double for parking tickets and leave a second one in the machine. stick your tongue out at babies. compliment people on their cute clothes. challenge yourself to not ridicule anyone for a whole day. then two. then a week. walk with a straight posture. look people in the eye. ask people about their story. talk to acquaintances so they become friends.

15. lie in the sunshine. daydream about the life you would lead if failure wasn’t a thing. open your eyes. take small steps to make it happen for you.

Self Cleanse/Self-Esteem Experiment

Self Cleanse

One night a random idea popped in my head to help with my own self confidence. I always found that even when I felt like I was being confident and feeling good about myself I still had that slight amount of doubt within me that would whisper just loud enough to make me only believe in myself 85% or 75% or sometimes 55%. I truly was tired of feeling like this and I wanted to be able to say I have 100% self love in, out and around me! So when night my intuition told me very loudly to write everything out and I mean everything! My fears, insecurities, any jealousy, doubts, regrets and anything else that might be holding me back from being who I really want to be.

I wrote out everything read it out loud and then on a separate piece of paper I wrote out my solutions to all those problems. It was so weird writing out the solution because it felt like when your girlfriend tells you some big dilemma she’s having and because you’re on the outside looking in, you give her one simple piece of advice and its solved! All of my solutions were so simple and reading out some of my doubts looked and sounded so stupid that I was almost embarrassed that I felt this way. After writing out my solutions I ripped up the piece of paper that had my fears and threw it away and I pasted my solutions to my vision board. It was that easy and it was THAT easy to change my mentality! Dead seriously I did that exercise about a month ago and have had no issues since. Any sign of doubt or fear quickly vanishes for me when I remember all the solutions I wrote and tell myself that “ain’t nobody got time for that!”. You hear people say it all the time and never really give it a chance but if you want to change you have to make a conscious decision to do so and then commit! I’ve done that and it’s safe to say that it’s working.